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At some point we all mess up in the past but we grow and learn from our mistakes. So, my question is should we face backlash for things we did in the past even though we've changed?

I'm asking because I was reading a story about a celeb who admitted she bullied someone in the past and is ashamed and sorry and now she's facing backlash even though this happened years ago. And I was just curious if it's right to troll someone for something stupid they did when they were young.

 ktichenor posted over a year ago
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Rubyrings said:
I get where the people are coming from being mean about it, because anyone who has experienced bullying knows it hurts, and that hurt doesn't go away easily. They hear that someone did something they know is wrong and they feel they have to speak up; maybe some part of them even thinks that will make things better somehow, like they can convince her to be a better person. But no, I don't think it's right. The simple fact that this celebrity is admitting she bullied people and is sorry is proof that she already knows it was wrong. She already "learned her lesson", so to speak, and there's no need for anyone else to try and make her learn it. They're just rubbing it in when it must already be painful to think about. If they keep bothering her about it and labeling her, and not allowing her to be who she is now, it's almost like they're the bullies now.
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True and if it was years ago, why didn't anybody say anything back then? Why get upset, now? It seems it must've been something petty if nobody said anything years ago.
ktichenor posted over a year ago
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That's very possible. And even if it wasn't, it's not going to help anyone to bother her about it now!
Rubyrings posted over a year ago
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That's a good point
ktichenor posted over a year ago
yorkshire_rose said:
I think if this celeb has admitted what she did and is genuinely remorseful then she should be left alone. The flip side is that people get angry especially when it comes to bullying and I can fully understand why but two wrongs never make a right. So I say let this celeb move on after all she has to live with what she did and i'm sure that will always come back to haunt her even if she has apologised !
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Very true and wise :)
ktichenor posted over a year ago
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Aww,thanks,hun ❤️
yorkshire_rose posted over a year ago
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^Thank you :)
yorkshire_rose posted over a year ago
Peaceandlove67 said:
The way I see it, the past is the past. She admitted she was wrong, and it's best to move on.
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jlhfan624 said:
If it's a celebrity, I'm always wary of their true intentions. If they were found out, THEN apologized I am less likely to believe their sincerity. If they admit it, apologize, and have shown they're better...well, then I could believe they have changed. I am more cynical, so I doubt the sincerity of "apologies". Whether it's from a celebrity or not, but it has happened. I am open to giving them the benefit of the doubt occasionally.
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well said!👏
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whatsupbugs said:
Everybody makes mistakes. What's important is that the people learn from their mistakes. If we "cancel" people, we deprive them of their potential for redemption.
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That's very wise :)
ktichenor posted over a year ago
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Thank you.
whatsupbugs posted over a year ago
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