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Advice needed (props for all SERIOUS answers)

I'm only posting this here because the advice spot is kinda dead and I feel I'll have more luck here.

I'm gonna try to explain my situation as briefly as possible. Please bear with me :L I'm really in need of advice.

So, typical issue: I'm heavily infatuated with my guy friend. I've liked him for a long time now, and I can honestly say I've NEVER liked a guy as much as I like him. We hang out twice per week at a lounge, doing homework and stuff like that, because we both have time gaps between classes. I absolutely love those days; being with him is always the highlight of my day and I feel that we connect really well. I even went to his band's concert with a mutual friend down in another city a few weeks ago. I feel like I flirt with him a lot, but he seems to be one of those guys who doesn't really pick up on it. (He is very intelligent, don't get me wrong).

I used to always scoff at the idea of actually telling him how I feel. However, lately I've been contemplating the idea of it. I love the friendship we've developed and I'd hate to ruin it. Also... I don't think he likes me in that way. I mean, I suppose it's possible, but it hasn't been made evident and I know it's highly likely he only thinks of me as a friend. But the thing is... I still just want to tell him. I hate keeping such a big secret from him and it makes me feel like I'm being dishonest in a way. Also, I'd hate to live with the regret of "what could've been" if I would've tried. There's no guarantee that telling him will ruin the friendship, but I still am afraid to take the risk.

There are about 5 weeks left of the semester, and I don't know if we'll both have break times between classes again next semester. So that means these could be my last 5 weeks of seeing him regularly and my last opportunities to try and "take action." People say to just casually ask him to go do something like a movie or a meal, but I feel that might be a little weird to ask that since we hang out regularly
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(sorry, it didn't post the rest): since we hang out regularly anyways, and he is also a very busy person in general. What do you guys think? Should I just tell him that I like him, being fully prepared for rejection but just taking the risk and not having to live with the regret of "what if"? Or is it not worth it to risk the friendship? And yes, I will give props for answering...
xWiildfiire posted over a year ago
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You are so lucky to have breaks in between classes?!?!??!
prussiaducky posted over a year ago
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And thank you all for your answers. I will definitely take all of this into account. So far, including friends and family I've talked to, the majority have said to go for it lol. This information has been very helpful, so thanks again :P
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Max277 said:
Well I personally think you should tell him how you feel. If he doesn't like what you feel about him then he's a jerk. A movie wouldn't be a bad idea you should probably try it. If he ask why, tell him you just really wanted to see the movie and know one would come with you to see it. If you do ask him out and he says no, then he didn't really "like you" I mean it's not awkward to have feelings for a friend that you have known forever. I have had close friends that I liked but never asked them out. But you should try it. It's not gonna hurt if you just ask him. If you end up do asking him out and he says no, that doesn't mean you guys can't still be friends. For an example I had a huge crush on this guy, one of my friends found out and told him that I liked him. But that didn't ruin our friendship we had. We were still good friends. All I can tell you is, give it a try. If you only got 5 weeks to ask him I'd get on it. Because people don't wait forever. Hopefully this helpped!!! Please let me know what happens!!!
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zikkiforever said:
We all got to takes risks in life. Just do it. Now is all seriousness,it is better to not go what could have been. Just ease into it. If you hang our regularly then you should be comfortable around each other.

If there ain't long left of the semester,it is better to do it. Go with the moment. It won't wreck your friendship. You can't control feelings. Maybe get a mate in there and ask him what he thinks of you.

It will save the embarrassment if a friend finds out if he likes you as a friend or not. He may not feel that way ,but not everybody will.

Don't ask him out on a date yet. Ask him to help you to a review on a movie,review on a food place or something. Ask him for help,if it was meant to be it will become more than it started out. Don't say it is a date or that will make him nervous. If sparks fly between BOTH of you ,then there you go.

You could even try avoiding him for a while. It may sound silly ,but he likes you that much he will come to YOU and ask why you're avoiding him. If he doesn't notice maybe your not as close as you think.

1.Ask a friend to find out.
2.Make up an occasion
3.Avoid him

If your friends report back with bad news move on it will hurt ,but it happens. I am sure you won't get married like people think,it never turns out a school love is your special somebody.
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posted over a year ago 
Dreamtime said:
hold the props
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wait till the 5 weeks ends
then tell him how you feel
if you confess to him now and it ends bad "let us just be friends" you'll get your heartbroken and disappointed
and you may not concentrate on exams and get bad grades
so yeah
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posted over a year ago 
LiveLoveMusic said:
1. If you're too scared to do it, just don't do it. Keep your friendship the way it is if you don't want to take a risk :-)

2. Ask another friend to tell him if you're the shy type like me. I did that once, actually and it worked. If you're not shy, then just ignore this...

3. Tell him how you feel. I think that there could be a big chance that he likes you too. I have a friend who's boyfriend doesn't really act like a boyfriend, but don't get me wrong, he likes her. At least try. If he doesn't like you back, I'm sure you'll still be friends.

4. Wait until the end of the semester. If you want some time to think about how you're going to tell him, this is a good thing to do.

Any one you pick, good luck either way.
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Foreve1D said:
I had the same problem!!!!! I TOTALLY understand where you're coming from. I'm telling you right now, that if this guy is as good of a friend as he's coming across, then he'll be able to take you approaching him about it. I confronted my guy and no, he didn't like me back but we still remained friends after that and it felt good to get it off my chest. It was like it almost never happened that awkward moment there. But why waste your time saying "What if?" and just go for it. Guys may be unpredictable, but maybe he's just acting like he doesn't like you because he thinks you might not like him. He may have had his heart broken before and is just afraid. There is no harm in trying. Hope this helped!
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Let me know what happens please!
Foreve1D posted over a year ago
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Haha. If anything remarkable goes down, I'll fill you in :P
xWiildfiire posted over a year ago
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Thanks that would be great! :)
Foreve1D posted over a year ago
karolinak1999 said:
awwh thats so cute!!!!

Don't tell him, show him when the time is right and you two are alone....lean in and kiss him - like in the movies lol!!!!! but I'm serious, if your in a moment you two are alone.......The other thinh you should look at is are you in his league?!......and are you sure he's not gay??, I'm serious ***but don't want any props!!!
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prussiaducky said:
I wouldn't if I were you, just keep the beautiful friendship. I wouldn't want to ever lose such a friendship. That's me though, take the risk if you really want to.
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posted over a year ago 
Book-Freak said:
Well, I think you should tell him. If you feel so passionately about this (and him) you should tell him. It might not be easy to do (and he might not feel the same way so you should be prepared for that) but he might accept it you'll be closer (he may even feel the same way!).
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