Sex and Sexuality Article: my boyfriend is hardcore pressuring me for sex?

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my boyfriend is hardcore pressuring me for sex?

posted by northlover

yea so title says a lot of it. I'm 14, he's 15

and we've been dating for almost 9 months. we go to different high schools, so we pretty much only see each other nights and weekends. he is super impulsive, serisoly.

and he's been talking about sex for like a month, but recently, he's become more aggressive/pushy. like if we were kissing, he would get ontop of me (which is pretty normal) except he will like kind of hold me down and start doing stuff. if I tell him to stop he stops what he's doing but doesn't move, he justs tries to talk me into it. he also has started kissing me up against the door. and he holds my shoulders/hips then to.

it's getting a little scary, I have bruises along my arms from him and on my hips. he just doesn't move if I tell him. I've started avoiding being alone with him but I can't do that forever. what should I do? what do I say? I know this sounds niave but I really like him and I want to avoid breaking up with him if it's possible.

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brandonaz No, you can't avoid breaking up with him, that's exactly what you have to do. If you stay you might get raped. Plus the relationship is already abusive - him physically hurting you - and you have to get out of that. If you're afraid, get some guy friends to come with you when you talk to him, that's my suggestion. I would avoid bringing in adults because that gets messy but if you have some strong guy friends, they'll probably be willing to help you out, I know some get really protective. But bottom line: GET OUT.

RayRaycutie stwap what you're doing right now and pick. up. that. phone. tell him the problem. that you think he's being al little too into what he wants to do. and if he doesn't stop, break up with his..nvm. just break up with him. and if he continues to do what he does, put a restraining order on him. cuz i'm against abusive relationships. ' either way, you need to break up with him if this keeps on. *also i think u guys are too young.*

Sinna_Hime_chan Why did you create this twice? This one new? You had a question too, right? Now at least 8-12 people have answered. Hopefully -since just about everyone has said the same things, you will listen. Even the firmest boundaries and a long standing relationship is not make you immune from regrets or harm.

Sinna_Hime_chan http://www.fanpop.com/clubs/sex-and-sexuality/answers/show/449520/boyfriend-hardcore-pressuring-sex I don't know if you are hoping for a different answer. I was the softest touch saying to telling him to go satisfying himself in the bathroom. He's getting so heated accidents happen, too, and if you play with fire you might get burned. I KNOW. Everyone has mentioned rape or him forcing something you are not ready for and 100% with~ Even strong boundaries and discussing this will not help or protect you if he cannot have respect or control. Is that how you wanna loose your virginity? You better think hard & serious. If he keeps pushing limits he may end up a young father or worse!

Bubgum Try speeking to him make him see your pont of view. Do what you want to do he doesn't control you therefore cant make you do things that you don't whant to do. If he keeps on asking say no and mean no he should get the message. Hope this helps.

NightFalls Rape IS a potential Bubgum- I guess you did not read what others wrote. It happens. It's called "Date Rape" & it is still rape. No means no. Rape is never the girls fault but DON'T TEASE the guy. There was a nasty old saying guys used, "Put up or Shut up" & really you gotta decide. If he is ready & your not, if he wants & you don't, then you should both move on to where your happy. If you aren't in the same place of wants that doesn't work well. Maybe it will work out later-maybe not. Even if it doesn't go that far, it is about respect. He may want it, but if it crosses a line and makes YOU uncomfortable then it is not okay & you are responsible for how you handle: Breaking up, slapping the piss outta him, making it clear, whatever, and you better take care of your biz if you are so scared or concerned because people gave you advice, but we can't do it for you- it is on you.

NightFalls Nine months is a long time. . .but you are young. men's sex drives peak at 18 - women around 40. Fair? No. His hormones are kicking into gear... but YOU as a female always have to think about protection & pregnancy. Age factors are a maturity factor and how you'd feel if you got pregnant this early in your life your childhood and fun with friends and normal experiences would be over. He might not even stick around. So always think of YOUR best interest and needs in that deal. His is purely lust, wanting what he wants, & therefore thinking with his dick.

Alakazam7 You should break up with him. If he's pressuring you for sex then he doesn't really love you.

emmazurb break up with him. my last bf was demanding sex too, but i wasnt ready and he was being a jerk.

cheeseh Your only 14 and he wants sex? If he is hurting you, like giving your bruises, then that is assault, and if he doesnt stop when you tell him to, then thats assault too. He IS committing crimes every time he does that. You should break up with him. You dont want to get hurt any more than you already have. I understand that you dont wanna break up with him, so tell him that you just wanna be friends. If he gets mad and you think he might hurt you, then tell your parents or friends. If he gets really mad, then tell your parents or adult you trust, and if worst comes to worst, call the police. What ever you do, dont shout at him. Then he might get extremely angry and hurt you. Or, if you really love him but dont wanna have sex, then wait till you are LEGALLY allowed to have sex. Because, if you have sex now and you get pregnant, then your BF can get arrested for rape. And if he tries to rape you, call the police.

chloemarion yea umm so if you dont want to break up tell him your not ready for this big step and wait untill after college and your ready you need help p.s.........i wish the best of luck

FassMackee If you can get him over your house, and he tries this shit. Scream, Idid after my father and brothers got done with my bf, he was in uintensive care for three weeks!!!! Sometimes when No does not mean anything to him multiple injuries speak volumes!!!

MBsuperfan Beat his a$$ 4 real he could end up raping u or sum:/ Call da po po what hes doing is abuse And u really need 2 break up wit him

Holofan well if hes doing that then stay away form him if he gets close to you either kick him in the place or just talk to a adult. Break up with him. Just get him away from hurting you.

JailynnLuv Beat his ass

jonezzum so sad bt frn i hv smting t remind u lov hs noting to do wit sex,if he lvs u dn he wont force u to hv sex.. Jst remembr my words im a boy n i nvr pressurd my grlfrn to hv sxx,, n alrdy said im a boy so i undstn him bettr wt he wnts is only SEX nt U baiby, mind it!