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BabyBlud said:
Listen to me very carefully as i am a young mother myself. You have your whole life ahead of you. You need to get your school work finished, you need to get your independence, your own home, a succesfull job and plenty (and i mean plenty) of money in the bank before you even start THINKING of having a child.
Having a child is a wonderful experience, but sometimes it's better to wait then to rush things.
Taking care of a child is exhausting, mentally and physically. You won't have time for your friends, or to go out drinking with them, to go to the movies. You won't be able to experiement with careers or buy a car.
Your life, once you have a child, is lonliness, isolation, dirty nappies, feeds at ungodly hours, depression, sticky fingers, laundry, trying to keep your home, yourself and your baby clean and it goes on and on and on and on and on.
Once you have a child..YOUR LIFE IS OVER!!!
You do not have a life. Your life, not revolves around that child and there is nothing you can do about it.
If you're not financially stable how will you afford all the things you need? Nappies, baby clothes, formula, medicine for when they get sick?
If you live with your parents how will they cope with a new baby in the house? How will the react, how will you ever get your independence as you will rely more heavily on them?
If you have your own home how are you going to pay the bills if you have no income? Even if you go on welfare, that's hardly enough to pay gas, electricity, all your taxes your liable to pay, your rent/mortgage etc. Having chilren is very expensive!
I would wait, if i were you.
And as for your comment about wanting just a girl (to make her look cute) What the hell?
That just proves to me that you are too immature to care for a child as you're still a child yourself. You don't have children 'just to make them look cute' that's what barbie dolls are for.
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