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Is it a good thing to be pregnant at a really young age?

Everyone who I know who are like 15,16,17 seem to be pregnant and have babies. I'm nearly 18 and I had a pregnancy scare back in February when I was 17 and every time I've had sex I've not ended up pregnant :/ I really want a baby like now(Only a girl though!) so I can make her look really cute! but is it a bad thing that I'm 17 and I don't have a baby? I really want one! but I need to find the one first :(
 RnBStar13 posted over a year ago
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BabyBlud said:
Listen to me very carefully as i am a young mother myself. You have your whole life ahead of you. You need to get your school work finished, you need to get your independence, your own home, a succesfull job and plenty (and i mean plenty) of money in the bank before you even start THINKING of having a child.
Having a child is a wonderful experience, but sometimes it's better to wait then to rush things.
Taking care of a child is exhausting, mentally and physically. You won't have time for your friends, or to go out drinking with them, to go to the movies. You won't be able to experiement with careers or buy a car.
Your life, once you have a child, is lonliness, isolation, dirty nappies, feeds at ungodly hours, depression, sticky fingers, laundry, trying to keep your home, yourself and your baby clean and it goes on and on and on and on and on.
Once you have a child..YOUR LIFE IS OVER!!!
You do not have a life. Your life, not revolves around that child and there is nothing you can do about it.

If you're not financially stable how will you afford all the things you need? Nappies, baby clothes, formula, medicine for when they get sick?
If you live with your parents how will they cope with a new baby in the house? How will the react, how will you ever get your independence as you will rely more heavily on them?
If you have your own home how are you going to pay the bills if you have no income? Even if you go on welfare, that's hardly enough to pay gas, electricity, all your taxes your liable to pay, your rent/mortgage etc. Having chilren is very expensive!

I would wait, if i were you.

And as for your comment about wanting just a girl (to make her look cute) What the hell?
That just proves to me that you are too immature to care for a child as you're still a child yourself. You don't have children 'just to make them look cute' that's what barbie dolls are for.
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posted over a year ago 
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Agreed completely.:) That's exactly what my answer said. Teen moms never have time to do anything anymore by themselves and they don't even have jobs yet.
adultswimperson posted over a year ago
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agreed completely with you
seki posted over a year ago
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jessiec posted over a year ago
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Cinders said:
If the only reason you want a baby is to "make her look really cute," you are not ready to have a baby. And if you only want a girl (for this reason), there's a 50% chance you'll be incredibly disappointed, and then who will do the 3:00AM feedings, doctors visits and vaccinations, baby-proofing, or tolerate the three-hour-"What-the-hell-do-you-want-baby-i've-done-everything" crying sessions?

Or... wait, would you do that even for a "cute" girl child?

My advice is, if you want something to dress up and play with, get a kitten. If you want to be entirely responsible for someone else's life and well-being and deal with the constant fear that you are somehow screwing them up, then maybe you're ready for a kid.
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100% FTW Cinders
sesshyswind posted over a year ago
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Agreed!
Vixie79 posted over a year ago
adultswimperson said:
WTF?
No it's not a good thing, you have a whole life ahead of you at that age and you would rather spend time looking for a job and dropping out of school?
You should wait until after your married in your 20's, I don't see what good it does for you if you got pregnant now, you probably wouldn't be able to keep the baby without having money and it would be put up for adoption.
Plus doing this is also a big mistake.
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posted over a year ago 
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:( I would never put my child up for adoption! I don't believe in that! you should always make a life time commitment to your baby, no matter what! and I have a job so I'm fine with money :)
RnBStar13 posted over a year ago
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tru i agree with you
kaytiee posted over a year ago
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@giggitygoo, I wouldn't want to spend the rest of my young life taking care of a baby when I don't get to have fun anymore, obviously RnB isn't going to have time to do things she wants because she's to busy taking care of a child when she has to support it. @kaytiee, Thanks. ^_^
adultswimperson posted over a year ago
gigitygoo said:
Nope thats about the right age too have kids hell i have a kid and im 15 and wow thats sad im sorry you can try a lot of things too make it happen but if you want too talk in privet then inbox me you could try diffrent poesition and if that dont work than keep trying you will have a kid
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posted over a year ago 
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Well I'm single at the moment :) so.... I need to find "the one"
RnBStar13 posted over a year ago
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sry im taken but i can still help you
gigitygoo posted over a year ago
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no prob
gigitygoo posted over a year ago
mj4ever202 said:
Um no! You need to go to college and get a job before you have a child! Well, if you adopt then it's a different story...
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kaytiee said:
its niva a good or bad thing. however it is personnal choice and if you want a baby then try for one. i am 14 and am planning to have a baby with my boyfrend at 16. i really want a babay but i have told my boyfrend that i am waiting until i am at least 16 so i can get my gcses. many peepel are against being a mom at a young age but i am not as it is personal choice and your own body. so good look and if you want one dont let anyone stop you.! :) xxx
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thrillergirl18 said:
If your under 18 then your parents or whoever your living with got the right to take the baby away from you. But if your 18 wait till you get your High School diploma. If you get pregnant while in school it won't be good at all and dropping out of school will be the worst thing anyone could ever do. This goes for everyone not trust you.
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Tailsprowerfox said:
NO sheesh diddnt ANY of you dumb bimbo's learn ANYTHING in school???
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