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Cinders said:
First of all, you are not alone. Many twelve-year-old girls are on the cusp of adolescence, and get there before most boys their age. What you're feeling is a natural part of growing up. Your horomones are sending these signals to your brain. You're entering adulthood, these things happen, and these feelings are normal and expected. It's also normal to explore your own body at this age, and discover yourself and what helps satisfy these urges on your own. If you find out how to satisfy yourself, there will be less pressure to have sex, which is awesome because you really should not be having sex right now. Not that all girls listen to that, but it's much healthier to be exploring yourself on your own before you start dancing with a partner.
Second of all, on the contrary, I encourage you to do this again. And again. And again. Don't be afraid of your body or your feelings. Once you know yourself well enough, you can venture out into the world of partner dancing. But not before that time. Feel comfortable with yourself and your own body first. Wait until that "it's disgusting!" idea fades away, and it stops being disgusting, because it really isn't. I mean, I understand that perspective, and it's a healthy one to have at your age, but it'll pass, I promise.
Basically, all I'm trying to say is that masturbation at your age, or exploring your own body, is absolutely, one hundred percent normal, and you are not the only girl your age doing it. I'm also encouraging you to keep at it, by yourself, and don't go there with a boyfriend (or girlfriend!) until you are absolutely ready for that next step, hopefully in at least four or five years. But if you're not ready then, don't rush yourself either. I know women who were virgins until they were twenty-five or older, and that's perfectly normal, too.
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