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So anyone who read my (LoveforSeverus) last question, I ask to please read this!

So last week, I asked a question about me and my boyfriend wanting to have sex. Well I had some time to think about it and I decided I didn't want to do it. (Those of you who are obsessive about making sure the guy respects you will love this: He took my face in his hands and told me "When you're ready we will do it. There is no rush and it's up to you." Thought that was super sweet and respectful.) Anyway, I went to his house and after about 4 hours of touching, kissing, oral... *cough*... He rubbed his manhood on me and so I told him that I just wanted him to stick it in once, to see what it was like. Well, we did. (By the way I count this as my virginity, what about you?) And that was so weird. It hurt worse than anything I've felt in a long time (it even hurt him a little) but after, it made me wanna go all the way (we didn't, though). I don't know really what the question here is but I felt like I needed to tell the people who answered my other question just to see what to do... I want to, but the pain, but I know how he'd make me feel emotionally... GR!


Oh and, lastly, it made me wanna go all the way because I wanted to have him like that... As if, it'd make him mine. All mine... Is it normal to feel that way?
 LoveforSeverus posted over a year ago
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bri-marie said:
It is completely and totally normal to feel that way. From what I remember about your last question, you cared very deeply for him to begin with, so experiencing something so intimate with him would only heighten that.

The pain is fairly common, and the amount differs from person to person. I've heard some people say that working a slow, gentle rhythm works it out, that waiting with him inside while until the pain fades helps, and some women who've said they needed to keep trying to get stretched enough. And some times women just have painful intercourse. There can be health reasons (a swollen gland, an oncoming bladder infection, too full a bladder) or it's just how your body is.
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I knew it was gonna hurt, but I think after a while it'd be ok :)
LoveforSeverus posted over a year ago
lilith84 said:
Pain is usually normal my friend, it shouldn't be there next time. You might be a little uncomfortable, just need time to adjust to the feeling of having 'something' inside of you. You just need to be sure that it is what you really want.
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SouthParkSmart said:
I'd consider your loss of virginity to be at oral, but that's just me...

Yes, it is normal to feel that way. The pain, for one. From what I hear, sex is an acquired taste.

Also, the emotional aspect of you feeling that he is yours. I had it explained to me by a Christian abstinence advocate. She said that that attachment that comes from two people sleeping with each other is so that the two people will be more likely to stay in a monogamous relationship. It's like if you take two colored pieces of paper and glue them together, then rip them apart, bits of each piece will stick to the other one.
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Well that's actually kinda how I feel!
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jodarchy said:
pain is completley normal the first time you have sex because your rupturing the hymen, the next time it will be uncomfortable for a while, until your body adjusts, when he enters just have him stay still until the pain/uncomfortable feeling goes away
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LadyLilith said:
Basically what lilith84 said. XD Typically the first time will hurt a lot, because you're rupturing your hymen and it's something your body's not used to. The next time he is inside of you, be it another experiment or full out sex, it might hurt/feel uncomfortable in the beginning. But your vagina is a muscle; given time, it will stretch out enough to accommodate. After that...it should be amazing. Or at least very nice. =)

If you think you are ready, I say go for it. Obviously just be careful, pregnancy and STD's, lala. But being intimate with someone you care about...it's mind blowing. Especially since he's your first. It'll be something unforgettable.
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lol "lala"... believe me, we've talked about all of it
LoveforSeverus posted over a year ago
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