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I don't know a good question to ask so lemme say this: Me and my boyfriend are thinking about having sex.
I read Cinder's article (How Maturity Leads To Good Sex, or something similar) and I considered all these questions.
1) Are you having sex just for the sake of having sex?
2) Are you having sex because you were pressured into having sex?
3) Does the idea of buying condoms make you uncomfortable?
4) Do you think that you can't get pregnant on your period?
5) Can you talk to your partner-- without laughing-- about sex? This includes what you like about sex, and the things your partner does well, and the things s/he could improve on.
6) Have you thought about ways to make the experience memorable?
7) Have you gotten tested for STDs, or gone to a doctor for a physical lately?
8) Do you want your partner to have just as good an experience as you do, or do you not care?
If you answered "Yes" on any of the 1-4 questions, or if you answered "No" on any of the 5-8 questions, then you are not mature enough to have great sex. If you chose "No" on all of 1-4, and if you chose "Yes" on all of 5-8, then congratulations! You're a mature adult who can make his/her own decisions. Hooray!
I agree with all these so I asked my boyfriend them as well. The only question we got "wrong" (we got all the same answers) was question 7. I ASSURE you all we are both virgins and I am on the pill and we have condoms. I care about him and believe I do in fact love him. The only thing is that I'm 14 and he's 16. He said he wanted to wait a while but then changed his mind and I don't want either of us to have sex til we're both ready. I think that he'd take care of me and I wouldn't have the emotional baggage associated with sex. But I'd like the opinion of older, more experienced people. Minus the age, I think I'm ready. Just give me your opinion please. Thankies :)
1) Are you having sex just for the sake of having sex?
2) Are you having sex because you were pressured into having sex?
3) Does the idea of buying condoms make you uncomfortable?
4) Do you think that you can't get pregnant on your period?
5) Can you talk to your partner-- without laughing-- about sex? This includes what you like about sex, and the things your partner does well, and the things s/he could improve on.
6) Have you thought about ways to make the experience memorable?
7) Have you gotten tested for STDs, or gone to a doctor for a physical lately?
8) Do you want your partner to have just as good an experience as you do, or do you not care?
If you answered "Yes" on any of the 1-4 questions, or if you answered "No" on any of the 5-8 questions, then you are not mature enough to have great sex. If you chose "No" on all of 1-4, and if you chose "Yes" on all of 5-8, then congratulations! You're a mature adult who can make his/her own decisions. Hooray!
I agree with all these so I asked my boyfriend them as well. The only question we got "wrong" (we got all the same answers) was question 7. I ASSURE you all we are both virgins and I am on the pill and we have condoms. I care about him and believe I do in fact love him. The only thing is that I'm 14 and he's 16. He said he wanted to wait a while but then changed his mind and I don't want either of us to have sex til we're both ready. I think that he'd take care of me and I wouldn't have the emotional baggage associated with sex. But I'd like the opinion of older, more experienced people. Minus the age, I think I'm ready. Just give me your opinion please. Thankies :)
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