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I don't really know what spot to put this question on, so i'm just gonna ask it here. Its kinda long.

i'm 16. i know when you're 16 you're supposed to be all hormonal and horny, but i'm really just not. my best friend thinks i'm asexual but i don't think so, i like boys, i just don't want to have sex with them. my last boyfriend was 7th grade and i never made out with anyone until my 16th birthday and that was just a drunked birthday thing with a guy who meant nothing and really just wanted to get some. anyways, as of 3 days ago, i have a boyfriend. i like him alot and he's funny and really sweet but i'm really not sexually attracted to him. i thought it would change when he kissed me but it didn't, and now i feel really bad. i don't want to break up with him i just don't really wanna do anything sexual with him for awhile and i don't know what to tell him. i feel like if i break up with him i'll regret it but know i should because its not fair to him.
so if you read this, what should i do?
 Bones_love posted over a year ago
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SouthParkSmart said:
It is possible you could be asexual. But don't let your friend or anyone else tell you that. It's YOUR life; don't let anyone label you.

If you don't feel sexually attracted to anyone (girls included), then you may be asexual. But, you may also be a "late bloomer". There's nothing wrong with that. If you want to, you can identify as asexual for the time being, because sexuality can change over time.

If your boyfriend is looking for sex that you don't want to give him, that's one thing. If you two get along fine and have fun doing non-sexual things like going on dates and hanging out, maybe you should consider staying together. However, if he's pressuring you, you should probably get out of the relationship.

Just explain to him that you aren't sexually attracted to anyone, and that it isn't his fault, but if he would like to stay together with you, you will have to find some things to do together that you both enjoy.

Hope this helps!
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posted over a year ago 
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Great answer. Voted best one by me. ♥
Vixie79 posted over a year ago
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^^^ Me too :)
NCISLuverjk93 posted over a year ago
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Perfect answer I must say. It's all true.
gamer495 posted over a year ago
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ruby1000 said:
Ok I have absolutley no experince or anything but I think that you should stay with hime. He sound like a great guy and your right in saying you might regret it. Not all relationships are based on sex and stuff and at 16 he might not want all of that. You could talk to him and explain how you feel. You say that you like boys, so have you ever been attracted to any in the past...
Also I think that you can get tested for being asexual maybe that would help...
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shomill said:
Sounds like you have excellent emotional and sexual control. I wish I had just a little bit of that. Not much, just a little.
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boolander25 said:
Ok, don't feel bad. At all. I'm exactly the same with my boyfriend. Like your story is so similar to mine, it's freaky. I'm not sexually attracted to guys my age at all, I don't know why, my boyfriend thinks I'm weird. So don't feel bad, you're nto alone in this strange weird teenager feeling. I've mad eout with my bf like quite a few times and my feelings really haven't changed for him either. It may nto be perfectly normal, but it's obviously not unheard of, if there are other people who have felt the same way like this about guys. Just don't break up with him. tell him how you feel, it helps. Truly it does. Just tell him you want to get used to dating first and then try things out. If your guy really loves you and wants to be with you, he'll make things work.
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thanks alot(:
Bones_love posted over a year ago
jeniffer2200 said:
well..you should not breakup with him that will be bad because you will feel bad more than before just complete with him with time everthing you want to do with him will happen
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doggee said:
the thing that is clear is ,u r heterosexual.OK. but it seems that u do not have much sexual urges.This happens with some ppl.(in any sexuality) but i think, before doing anything to yourself, better to talk to sexologist.Sexologists or psychiatrists study gender psychology throughly and they have much much more and authentic information and ALSO THE SOLUTION OF YOUR PROBLEM WITHOUT CREATING MESS.
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Lawli-gagger said:
OK 1 I will just say that because you're not sexually attracted to anyone doesn't mean anything. Relationships don't require sex to keep things going or interesting. For some its a nice thing (ppl like me :) ) but to others its not such a big deal. If you don't want to, thats the end of the story. It just doesn't happen and don't let anyone pressure you into thinking you HAVE to do it to keep this guy in your life. Also talk to him about it (as detailed as you are comfy with) and tell him you're just not ready to go that far and may not ever be if he understands keep him if he doesn't break up.
You are you and if anyone has a problem with that they can shove it. :)

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OK 1 I will just say that because you're not sexually attracted to anyone doesn't mean anything. Relationships don't require sex to keep things going or interesting. For some its a nice thing (ppl like me :) ) but to others its not such a big deal. If you don't want to, thats the end of the story. It just doesn't happen and don't let anyone pressure you into thinking you HAVE to do it to keep this guy in your life. Also talk to him about it (as detailed as you are comfy with) and tell him you're just not ready to go that far and may not ever be if he understands keep him if he doesn't break up.
You are you and if anyone has a problem with that they can shove it. :)
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