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About asexuality...

Some people say asexuality doesn't exist, that all people are sexual beings. But that doesn't seem quite right to me. As a male, I've been surrounded by my peers, who think of sex all the time ever since we became teenagers. At one point, I thought I was gay, but I just know that's not it either. And for the record, I haven't had any sexual experiences either, not even kissing. And, having already turned 18 and all, I think it's rather strange that I still have no desire whatsoever to have sex with anyone...

I do consider some people attractive though, I just can't imagine myself ever wanting to have sex with them. There are only a few of these people as well. In my school, there's this girl, who I think is very beautiful. I don't know her, because I don't really talk to girls, yet I would like to kiss her... but nothing more.

I could totally see myself being in a relationship, too, but do relationships without sex actually exist? And don't get me wrong. I don't mind being single, at least not for the time being, but I am a little confused about this whole thing. Any advice?
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I thought asexual referred to bacterial reproduction.
shomill posted over a year ago
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CornChips said:
For me, a person can't be asexual because of its definition altogether. I think people have misused this word for when it comes to someone not having sex. For the question, can relationships exist without having sex, I believe it can. Sex doesn't make or keep the relationship together. It should be more of a bonding thing, once you're ready to do it. I hope I worded this right.
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I'm not sure if that's what you meant, but I agree, knowingly refusing to have sex - or celibacy - is not asexuality. It's not about if you're having sex, but about whether you really WANT to or feel the need to have sex at all. I, for one, find the thought of having sex borderline repulsive, but I guess I could get used to it if I was with the right girl. And that's NOT to say I would necessarily enjoy it, of course, because the way I see it, asexual is someone who can have sex but does not really have a sex drive. I'm not completely sure about this myself, so anyone with better knowledge can obviously correct me if I'm wrong :)
formal_DeHyde posted over a year ago
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Yeah, I agree. I'm glad I'm not alone on the thought of engaging in sexual activities gross, but like you said if I find the right guy for me, I'll have a change of heart. It's all about the right level of comfort when you feel you're ready & not feel uneasy. Correct me if I'm wrong as well :)
CornChips posted over a year ago
SouthParkSmart said:
I absolutely believe that asexuals exist. Have you checked out AVEN (asexuality.org)? It can answer a lot of your questions. You can also join the Asexuality Fan Club on this site!
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