I'm 16 and my boyfriends 19 and we're about to have sex and it's my 1st time can anyone tell me how it feels since im alittle scared?

bri-marie gives excellent advice. But I just thought I'd add that I looked up Pennsylvania laws for you (your profile says you are in this state). Sixteen is age of consent there, so sex with your boyfriend would be legal. I'm saying this because in some states, it would be considered statutory rape. I'm telling you this to reassure you that you would not be breaking any laws, link.

As the attorney points out in the site linked above, just because it's LEGAL does not mean it's the right choice for you. I'm just cautioning you and asking you to think about your choice, before you do it. I'm not saying don't do it, because it is your life and your choice. I'm just asking you to think about if you're ready or not and if you're comfortable with it and doing it for the right reasons.

As bri-marie points out, the first experience is different for everyone. Nine out of ten times, it hurts for girls, at least a little bit. So if it hurts, I just wanted to let you know that that is normal, and it's also normal if you bleed. It's OK to be nervous and a little scared. It's a scary thing. Which is why it is important to be ready for it. You don't want to go too far too fast, before you can handle the physical and emotional consequences.

As always, be safe. Use a condom, and probably see a gynecologist beforehand. These doctors are excellent resources for all your sexual health questions, and what you talk about is confidential. You can also ask for a prescription for birth control from your doctor. If, for whatever reason, you can't or won't go to a gynecologist, than try and be as informed as you can. Talk to your school counselor or health teacher. These talks remain confidential until the point where your life is threatened. But in these matters, they are contractually bound to respect your privacy.

But what I can't stress enough is be safe. Be sure you'd be willing to deal with the worst case scenario (pregnancy or life-long STD) if your protection for whatever reason fails. Be sure you both want the same thing out of this experience, and that your boyfriend is not using you just for sex. Or, if he IS just using you for sex, is that OK with you.

Each experience is different, so it really depends on the person. For me, it hurt only a little. It was more uncomfortable than anything (kind of like the first time I put a tampon in). I didn't bleed at all, but I know girls who say they did.

Take your time, don't rush it (both deciding to have sex and actually having sex). Only do it when you're positive you're ready and that you both trust each other. I don't only mean trust that he'll stay and that he loves you, also trust that he'll be sensitive to what you're feeling and needing.

Also, be sure that you both understand the risks and that you both have an idea of what you'll do if something does happen.

Your life is going to be a living hell if you choose to have sex now, wait till your in your 20's but for now i'd wait.

Cinders gives some excellent advice.And she is right. Sorry I did not fully read what Cinders had to say.My bad Cinders. I just schemed over her answer and she has giving a lot of other good answers. I said last time you have to very aware of your state laws. Yes that is true, but Cinders did say she looked Pennsylvania state laws up online and it turns out having sex with your boyfriend is legal.Although you do need to be very aware of your state laws.They can always change. If they did this would be a very good excuse for getting out of having sex with your boyfriend. Living in America a young lady that is under the age of eighteen needs to be very aware of state laws. I am from Texas. I cannot have sex with a guy that is seventeen when I will be turning seventeen in January. If my parents don't sign some papers the guy gets sent to jail. Not some little jail where he just stays there for six months to a year. A hardcore prison with murderers and rapists. Not to say that your boyfriend is a murderer or rapist or anything like that, but you need to find out more about your Pennsylvania state laws. Then he will not feel the need to ask you to have sex with him. This is probably the best way to get out of having sex with a guy that you don't feel comfortable about having sex with. However, in your state you can't really say anything to him about that. If are scared of having sex with him, then don't. It's as simple as that. If he tries to pressure you into having sex with him. He's not for you. He is not worth as much as you are worth. A guy that truly loves and respects you will love and respect what you choose to do with your own body. Since you are not married to him. You don't owe him your body to share with. Your female body is your body, not his. However if you do choose to have sex with him you should use contraceptives to protect your body from having an unwanted pregnancy or contracting HIV.

your gonna ruin your life if you have sex.