Sex and Sexuality Question
The only thing that's keeping me from loosing my virginity is the fear of getting pregnant, what do you think i should do?
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Chlarkfan posted over a year ago
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Cinders said:
Sex can complicate and/or enhance a current relationship, and good sexual chemistry is imperative to a healthy relationship. If you want to have sex, and feel like you are physically, emotionally and mentally mature to handle it, then the fear of pregnancy shouldn't hold you back. There are plenty of good reasons NOT to have sex, but that isn't necessarily one of them.
Condoms are very effective. Though there's still a tiny chance that pregnancy will occur, they also protect you from STDs, which is also super important! If you're not satisfied with condoms alone, I suggest seeing your gynecologist for a birth control prescription for a fail safe. Condoms in conjunction with the pill are practically fool proof. Several couples use this method all the time.
That being said, please keep in mind that I am in no position to tell you when to have sex. That's a choice you ALONE can make, and not anyone else. I'm assuming that you feel like you're old enough, and that you're mature enough, and that the ONLY THING STOPPING YOU is fear of pregnancy.
However, maybe YOU should consider if this IS the only thing holding you back. We often like to make excuses to ourselves to mask the real reasons we don't want to do things. Maybe there's something else keeping you from having sex that has absolutely nothing to do with pregnancy. Just think about it for a while, and make sure you're being honest with yourself. That's my advice, anyway.
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nerysflynn said:
if that IS the only reason then i wouldn't worry too much, as long as you use protection you'll be fine. condoms are 97% effective and also protect against S.T.I s, however there are plenty of other methods of birth control you can use (but I'm sure you know that =))
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lovemebetter said:
i would use a cherry flavored condom!(there yummy)
:)but what if it break?
well thats a chance, but a cherry condom never broke on me,cuz i LOVE them!
im alittle weird. but i do love them,like this much!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!=]
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BlondeGirl93 said:
i haven't had sex yet myself to know but if you are afraid that when you have sex you'll end up pregnant you can try condoms and birthcontrol together. Chances are you won't end up pregnant if you use both
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sophieDP said:
I completely understand your fear of getting pregnant - I myself have a huge phobia but honestly most contraception is at least 98% effective!! my advice is if you are seriously worried use both the pill and condoms - then ur pretty much 100% protected ( plus if you use condoms u won't get an STD)!
However make sure ur also emotionally ready, often this kind of fear is just a sympton of greater underlining doubts about sex.
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jeftelover said:
eat candy!it will get what your thinking
about of your mind!i mean eat lots of candy!
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Deans_Girl said:
If you are at a stage where pregnancy will ruin your life in more ways then one, I strongly suggest you wait. Its hard at school, and i know form experience, because if you are to fall pregnant it can mess up your schooling, your relationships with family and friends and if you are to terminate the pregnancy that can lead to psychological disorders such as depression later on down the track. In saying that, I am currently sexually active andi am in my last year of schooling. i told my parents (not easy and not pleasant), they handles it like any parent would but its still hard. I then talked to my mum (dada or gran, or even a close friend or auntie will do) about contraceptives and what not and i decided to go on the Pill (Levlin Every day) i whent to my doctor and got a prescription for it and now i also use condoms aswell just as back up as there are things than can mess up the effects of the pill....if pregnancy really is the only thing keeping you from loosing it, your reading, your in a loving and respectful relationship (ask one of your friends if they think thats true, since gus girls seem to be a little deluded when it comes to men) then by ll means if you are truly ready, talk to you mum, friends boyfriend and go on some contraceptive that works well for you...also i know you dont know me, but if you feel you have no one to talk to just send me a message, ill be there for you. i know how hard this stuff can be and i may be able to help....hope that helped
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