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Karthigesh said:
As a guy I would want you to dump him, because when guys like me can't find a gf, guys like him go and do things like these behind theirs and it is totally un-called for, but I am going to advice you on how to do it without compromising yourself or your feelings in any way.
Now, first things first, talk to him and force him to tell you all the details of what happen. If he is willing to share, and show remorse, that means he is willing to be honest with you, so listen to what he says. I hate that he hid this from you, but truth is, as humans, we always hide when it comes to things like these because we know if we say it, it will only hurt people. It isn't easy to be honest, and since he wasn't before, this is the chance for him to be.
Secondly, talk to your friends, because friends aren't supposed to keep secrets from each other, especially if the secret involves hurting one of the friends. I understand that they might not want to hurt you and hence didn't tell you, but they should have realized that being honest was the way to go because friendship is built on truth, and not hiding the truth.
Finally, the decision to break up with him or forgive him is entirely up to you, I have helped many girls and couples for that matter through this, and the end result is always mixed. Some forgive and everything is okay, whereas others, break up and move on because they feel they deserve better. How things will work out, we will never know, but the important thing here is you and your feelings. I suggest following this because at least if you decide to break up with him, you can get the real honest truth out of him and get some closure on the matter.
Scars like these will run deep and it might affect things for you in the future, I can't lie to you and say things will be fine, but you have to fight it because you should tell yourself you deserve better, either FORCE him to earn your forgiveness OR break up with him, accept things, get closure and work towards healing and finding someone who would treat you for the angel that you are.
Nice guys are out there, we are just invisible to girls, but we are out there....
I wish you all the best :)
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