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Karthigesh said:
I can see that you do not want to lose both of them as friends so I will explain it to you from a guy's perspective. Having feelings for a friend or a best friend is never easy because so many things can happen and it can lead to many outcomes. So you really have to tread lightly.
Let's start with Guy 1. He could be giving you mixed signals for many reasons but I believe the most logical one is because he feels sort of guilty. See when a guy has to turn a girl down, he will feel really bad about it, and he will try his best to assert himself to you and show you that he cares without wanting to hurt you or losing you as a friend.
As for Guy 2, it's pretty clear he likes you, judging from the fact he likes touching you, playfully and even hugging you. But when you tell someone like that, that you used to like someone he knows, naturally he will tend to be a bit more cautious and guard himself from heartbreak. It's like when you sense, things will not work out, you just back off instead of jumping in, knowing you would get hurt anyway.
My advice to you is this, simply take time to yourself and really think your emotions through. Having feelings for a friend is not easy but in your case it's even harder because BOTH of them are your best friends. In a perfect world, Guy 1 would be over you and respect you as a friend and you would date Guy 2, but that also brings with it some awkwardness and weirdness into the friendship. After you think your emotions through, and if you do find yourself falling for Guy 2, I suggest you talk to him about it and tell him the feelings you had for Guy 1 was in the past and he said he didn't like you back.
If in the event you find yourself wanting to just be friends with them and avoid all the drama, talk to them both and set things right. Tell them how friendship is important to you and you would want to have both of them in your lives because they are important to you. Truthfully as humans, one thing we always fear is losing someone we care about, so your options now are pretty clear, think things through and really get a hold of your feelings and THEN talk to the person you like, OR give up on the drama altogether and just be friends with them both. The choice is yours...
I wish you the best :)
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