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OMG i need some mayjor dating advise!!!plz plz plz help!

ok...so there is this guy i'v known for 2-3 yrs an just the other day we were on the bus an me,him,an another friend started talking an i mentioned i could read palms so i checked his an our conversation drifted into a diffrent subject (i forget what) an then the other friend said to the guy "do you like candice?" an he didnt say anything an then he said "hey candice i got something to tell you" so i asked what an he seemed a little shy an embarrased but i kept asking wat an he wouldnt say so as we were riding home i asked him over an over again an wen he got off the bus he said "i like you!" an ran off then the next day he gave me a piece of paper an it was a story about me an him an i thought it was SO sweet!but in the story it said how he told me how he felt about me an wasnt sure if i liked him back an then i started thinking about our friendship an felt a little uneasy i like him as a friend an im not sure if i like him in any other way bt i dont want to hurt him an if we do go out i dont want it ruin our friendship!i need some advise!!
 mj4lyfe posted over a year ago
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Karthigesh said:
This is always a very tricky thing. On one hand there is fear that if things don't work out, you might lose him as a friend or even worse, the friendship might be awkward. On the other hand I can tell you really care for him, but you don't want to hurt his feelings.

You have to really take your time to think things through. Your heart has to be ready and willing to commit to this person and if you can't you MUST tell him how you feel. Don't worry about hurting him, because deep down, when a guy does this and a girl doesn't like him back, his number one fear is losing the girl from his life for good. Reassure him that no matter what, you will always be friends and nothing will change. If you sit down and tell him straight from your heart, and if he truly truly cared for you, he would respect your decision not to pursue a relationship.

But if you decide that you indeed have feelings for him, always take things slow. You maybe good friends but during a relationship you start to see the various tiny little flaws in each other. During this time, either you embrace the flaws or just cut your losses and move on. Also remember to talk to him because it might raise another fear, the "what if" fear, which will make both of you very aware of the fact that things might go wrong and what would happen if you lose each other.

So your best approach is to really take time and think things through for yourself. Don't think about his emotions and feelings for now, put yourself first. If you want to go for it take it slow, if you don't want to go for it and remain friends then speak to him and wholeheartedly assure him that you will never go anywhere and he won't lose you.

As they say, love might come and go, but friendship is forever :) and love is just a higher emotional understanding that is built on a solid foundation of friendship.

All the best to you and may things work out for you :)
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posted over a year ago 
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omg thank you karthigesh SOOO much!!i'll take ur advise ur so sweet to take ur time to help me!!:)
mj4lyfe posted over a year ago
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Hey no worries :) I just hope things work out for you, love really does wonderful things to the human heart and spirit :)
Karthigesh posted over a year ago
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THANX!!:)
mj4lyfe posted over a year ago
kendallfanwov said:
i am just going to simply answer this advice.

It depends... is he cute? nice, and funny?
if so then i think you should give him a chance!
if it does not go good then dont date him. if it does, date him!
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posted over a year ago 
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he's the sweetest guy alive but a little too shy!he doesnt get flirty he says things like "your the best person in the world!" or "your such a great friend to ppl!" hes still a virgin an i am too but it seems a little weird for a guy?i dnt know what i should do i'll try you an karthigesh's advise but im not sure.
mj4lyfe posted over a year ago
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Being, cute nice and funny, isn't quite the correct criteria for liking someone. The important person in this is you. You have to think and really look at things long-term. I know you value him as a friend so you have to tread lightly to assure things work out for the best. I know you do not want to lose him and neither does he want to lose you. Virginity doesn't matter either, so what if he is one? That doesn't make him any less of a person now does it.
Karthigesh posted over a year ago
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