NO way!!! that'll be crazy (even if my religion IS sex till merriage) I think that people have the choice to gave it when ever they like, it's the whole point of human rights.

Not that I'm saying you SHOULD have sex before marriage. I think it's an individual's choice. If you want to have sex before you're married, then go right ahead. If you want to wait, then that's your choice. Nobody has the right to tell you that you should or shouldn't; the decision should be solely yours.

why cant you just wait untill you have teh right one? what if you have sex with someone you dont love? what was the point of it?

I hope everyone who chose 'no' ends up with 17 children with 12 sex partners...every month.

I hope that too ShadowFlame, I'd be in newspapers and magazines and the tv....awesome =P and I like so many names so it's all good.

I honestly don't care, it's their decision to make and their life, life's too short aswell.

I think it's a personal choice. I, personally, don't plan on waiting necessarily for marriage but if someone else does, more power to them.

This is kind of similar to this pick link.

And in response to shadowflame, the only reason I'd be against having seventeen kids is population issues. ;o)

Additionally, just because you have sex before marriage doesn't mean you'll have multiple partners simultaneously. It just means you made a different choice. What's with assuming that everyone who doesn't wait for marriage is promiscuous? Let's not leap to conclusions. Not all married couples are monogamous.

EDIT: While I don't think one SHOULD necessarily wait for marriage, I don't think one SHOULDN'T wait either. It's all what one is comfortable doing.

My mom told me, having sex is like buying a car. You don't walk onto the car lot and buy the first one you see without testing it out. You look at a lot of cars, but when you finally find one you really like, you spend some time with it, take it for a test drive, make sure the engine works right...

I guess what I'm trying to say is, love is great but if you aren't compatible in other areas, a marriage can go broke. But Cinders is right, it's a personal choice, only do what you are comfortable with doing. :D

I hope everyone who picks 'yes' will have horrible, boring sex with their one partner for the rest of their life. *joke*

Cinders really is right: why do people think people who don't abstain are promiscious? I don't believe you should abstain till marriage. Do whatever you want, as long as you respect your partners and do it save.
But I am not promiscious: some people would call me a prude.
The way I behave, is MY choice, wether I want to be prude or promiscious. The same goes for people who do abstain: do whatever you feel comfortable with.

Love the car-story btw.

shadowflame i thought you was a christian :O!
wouldn't a more loving and encouraging response about your believes been

"i hope everyone who picks no, seriously considers there actions"

or a all time classic clique "i hope everyone who picks no finds there way"

rather than damming us to hell lol if i end up with that many kids i am going to come to your house and ask for that christian aid and loving welcome i hear so much about :P


on a more personal and less hellish note i'm not entirly sure yet, if i met someone and fell in love and they wanted to wait until after marriage i would happy to do that, i beg to differ with chel's analogy, you don't test drive sex, it's something you learn from one another.....and well if that fails there's plenty of books, session, toys, help, activities ect to inprove your sex lives. If a marriage falls appart becomes of something wrong in the bedroom, the couple either hasn't tried enough or they weren't a solid couple to start with

Nope I don't see the point why wating until your married?

^^ LMAO! So true =]

Picture it: you've waited forever. You're finally married, it's your wedding night, you've got the big bed and candles and everything, and you're so ready...then he can't get it up. Oh noes. ;) x

while that wouldn't be the greatest wedding night, it was probably just a one off on the account of nerves but even if it wasn't
there are many ways to fix problems like that, would you think your entire marriage based on love was a mistake because you didn't find out earlier he had some problems

I think it's their choice. Each couple makes their own decision...

I think it's a couple's choice, but I must say that if you were to ask my advice, I would advice waiting. That is all.

Because I'm too lazy to think up new material at the moment, lol...I'll just repeat a comment I made earlier to another "virginity" pick:

You know what's interesting? I've heard many, many people (I've lost count) tell me "I am SO glad I waited for the wedding night. One of the best decisions I ever made."

But not once have I ever heard anyone say "I'm so glad I didn't wait."

Future husband, I don't know your name. I don't know where you are or what you're doing. I don't even know if you exist or not. But regardless, I'm waiting for you. I choose to live with no regrets. I choose to be proud of my purity, to save it for you and you alone...because I know you're worth it. I know you'll do the same for me.

let them do what they want :p

i believe you need to wait for the right person but not marriage

Just because you think you're ready, doesn't mean you should do it right away. It just means you're ready for when the time comes. Like being ready to become an adult. You don't juts become one once you feel you're ready. It takes time.
That's just something I was thinking about yesterday.

when you become ready for something that's when you do it, why would you wait? you might wait out of personal choice but i see that as part of not being fully ready but everyone doesn't feel like that
when you become hungry you eat because your ready for it
what do you mean you wait to become a adult :S I am confused, exactly how to you become a adult? i don't think it's some thing you wait to become you either are one or your not, it's something you grow in ot

heh. Don't care either way. I personally don't plan on waiting but if you really want to wait, go for it.

It's not for me, but I couldnt care less what other people do.

i personally think that sex should be with the one you love not just anyone thats my personal belief its the way i was raised i think sex is something that is special and shouldn't be done with just anyone but everyone is entitled to their opinion

I think I'd probably wait until I'm married, but you should wait until your'e in love, and that doesn't neccessarily mean married.

Well, I actually agree more with Cinders' response.

I don't believe that waiting until marriage and finding your soulmate is the best or only option, nor do I think that having sex before marriage is the best either.

I overall think that it depends on one's personal choice. If a person thinks they found someone they love, care deeply for, and are ready for a sexual experience, whether married to this person or not, they can go for it if they please. :)

It's a big part of my religion, but even if it wasn't, I would want to wait.

I was raised with the idea that it's better to have sex before marriage than after. Sex is a big part of marriage, and if it sucks, the marriage isn't going to be a very happy one. So find out before the marriage if you two are sexually compatible.

There is some truth to that. Just because your bodies biologically interlock doesn't mean you're going to be compatible. And, depending on what causes the incompatibility, it may always be that way. Books, and toys, and therapy can only do so much.

Sex also means something different to everyone. My sister sees it a fun, pleasurable thing to do. I see it as something pleasurable to share with someone I really care about.

Everyone is different, and everyone should approach things like sex in a way that suits them best.

Personally I think that it is a good idea; less risk of STD and unwanted pregnancy. But that's just me. Other people can do what they want and should have a right to do so.