What happens in our lives doesn't affect how close we are to God. We get closer to him by giving him more of our time, by acknowledging his power in the hardest of times and seeing his greatness through it all.
somtimes we can be burdend with life many setbacks, its all a test of endurance. and yes its hard, but you must understand, that god is a god of compassion, mercy and love. he would never allow you to be tested anymore than you can handle. stay strong, keep the faith, and continue to live by the words of the gospels each day of your life. and then you may see change accure.