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Does this make me different?

I've always been an outcast all my life and I hear alot of people say that outcasts are different from other people and they're "special" I always feel isolated when out in public or in general, everywhere i go no one is interested in making conversation with me, I'm always avoided. Even by my family! Even on this site, i don't talk to hardly anyone like 1 or 2 people that's it. I was just wondering are outcasts different from other people? or is it a mental illness? I need help please it's really affecting my life.
 RnBStar13 posted over a year ago
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peterslover said:
It sounds like you're waiting for someone to make the first move. Have you ever thought of starting the conversation? Step out of your 'box' and make the first move! Maybe they are waiting for you! You are welcome to talk to me anytime! In your profile I noticed that you said that you're a nice person. Show that! And you love animals too! I love animals. That is something to talk about! I wish you all the best!
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posted over a year ago 
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thank you :) It's just i have social anxiety, it's really hard for me to make conversation, people think i'm weird coz i hardly ever talk and it's hard to get through life when people treat me like dirt and look at me as if i'm some sort of creature from another planet.
RnBStar13 posted over a year ago
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Sorry to hear that :/ I will pray for you! You can talk to me anytime. Is 'talking' here any easier?
peterslover posted over a year ago
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Thank you :) I pray every night too, i'm a christian :)
RnBStar13 posted over a year ago
emilyroxx said:
No, being an outcast does not mean that you have a disability. Outcasts are actually usually more creative and special that other people, thats why we're outcasts. (Yeah... I'm one too. :) ) Most people don't understand that, so they avoid us.
I would reccomend joining clubs that you're interested in, or talking to more people. Then people will see that you're a good person, and you won't be an outcast anymore.
Oucasts are 'special', but in a good, fun way. (I prefer to hang out with other outcasts than regular people. ;) ) Hope this helps!
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Cool :) hopefully one day everything will work out for us, thank you :) but i don't hang out with other outcasts i'm completely on my own all the time.
RnBStar13 posted over a year ago
larouxbestfan said:
i am an outcast too. literslly NO ONE talks to me everyone ignores me my best friend ignores me too. my family dosent talk to me the only time my mom really says anything to me is when i do something bad and she yells at me sometimes i go in my room and cry thats one reason why ive hated my life we arent really "special" because everyones "special". i always thought it would be nice to meet someone who was an outcast like me i pretend im happy all the time but most of the time im not and im tired of hiding my feelings...
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thank you :) well i hope all this changes for us because i'm very much like you.
RnBStar13 posted over a year ago
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im not saying im a person who hates life and would rather die its just sometimes i get a little overwhelmed because im really lonley ALL THE TIME!!!!!
larouxbestfan posted over a year ago
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and thanks it means a lot to me
larouxbestfan posted over a year ago
Waterwhip said:
of course not! we are all one. like a banyon tree. the tree spreads takes root and spreads again. one big living organizm just like the whole world do you get it?
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there is no such thing as a outcast because were just humans with different intrest
Waterwhip posted over a year ago
SelinaKyle said:
I went through the same exact thing growing up, it was incredibly painful, especially getting that treatment from my own family. You sound like you are extremely shy. This doesn't mean you are mentally ill or have a problem. Some people just have different temperaments and we live in a society where everyone is expected to be extroverted and confident. It can become a vicious circle where being rejected gets your confidence down which makes people avoid you even more. A lot of times that avoidance is just people not knowing how to approach someone who is shy or insecure, not a statement about you personally. You are probably a very sensitive person and the internet is a great way to connect with people who have a similar personality type. Let me know if you need to talk more. :)
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djsheshe said:
hi :P i go thru what you go thru, except im on and off. and when im off, i realize that i kinda put myself into the mentality that im an outcast and that people r trying to avoid me, and trust me, its a horrible feeling.

i think its all about the mentality. i highly doubt people r trying to avoid u. the mentality u have is giving u an 'aura' that people try to avoid. i have a friend who always says negative things about herself kinda like how pple try to avoid her, and the only thing pple dnt like about that is that it makes them WANT to avoid her!!!

bottom line, dont think negatively. i've noticed when i think positively, i avoid the outcast feeling u go thru. i think u r probably a nice person, u r just shy. like me :P and sometimes, pple want u to start the conversation, or they dont know how. thats frustrating and a little nerve racking, but sometimes we have to try. i'll tlk to u :P

dnt let it affect your life, ok ? :)
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para-scence said:
I'm like that too. Just be yourself. Eventually therell be people thatll see youre worth getting to know better, & then youll have some friends. I dont have A LOT of friends, but im absolutely ok with that. I dont like big crowds at all, so its good. Just be comfortable with yourself.
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Lawli-gagger said:
Well, I'm kind of socially awkward but I seem to get in just fine.
If I don't...well here's the clincher...I have never cared.
I'm in my own world and I like it like that. Yes, I am special because I'm different.
I usually prefer to be by myself...usually.
Don't let it stress you.
And also, people will reject and openly dismiss someone who seems they are ACTIVELY forcing themselves to belong. (my opinion anyway)
Just be you. ^.^
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