Please help me, I feel like crap right know. I have a problem with my family and I need someone to help me.

I know this is a really bad idea, but is there anyway you could reschedule the party? Like have it another day? Even though it wouldn't be ON your actual birthday, you'd get to have your family there...

And here's another sucky idea, have your birthday party with your friends and your family that comes and then plan a small get-together a few days later for the family that couldn't show up. That way, the aunts, uncles, and neices that couldn't come, you'd still be able to see (even if it's just like them coming to your house for dinner or something).

Sorry, those two crappy ideas are the only ones I could come up with. lol

Hoi,

I'm from the Netherlands too, so I understand our tradition of birthday's. I'll write this message in English, so that other fanpopusers can read it too.

I know what it's like to have people cancel on your birthday party, and yes, that sucks. Fortunately I'm blessed with a big family, so even when some cancel, there were always still quite a lot of people. I do know people who don't have such a big family, and they have had birthday's with not a lot of visitors.

Unfortunately there's not much you can do about it if you can't chance the date of your party. What you can do is tell the family members who are coming to your party how much you appreciate them coming. Another thing that you can do is make sure you always go to birthday parties of all your family members. If you take the time to go to their parties, maybe next year they will remember that, and take time to come to yours.

You say your family is very important to you. That probably means that you are very important to your family too. It usually works in both ways. Maybe you can call some of the family members who can't make it to your party and ask them if they want to stop by some other day to celebrate your birthday? I know it's not the same, but at least it's something.

Remember: You love your family, and your family loves you!
And by the way; Happy Birthday!

I hope this helps you! If you want to talk some more (maybe in dutch), just send me a message and I'll write you back!