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I'm a normal high-school girl who wants to well... be treated normal

So here's my life story... no. Just kidding- here's high school for me. Any advice?

I'm pretty smart but everyone who knows me (at school) thinks it's my best quality. I agree, but they don't get that I don't want to cure cancer or be a rocket scientist. I am quiet and kind of shy. I have one best friend-that's-a-boy, and a small group of friends, and I am both artistic and musical. If I answer a question wrong in school, several people in class will reply something along the lines of, "Ohhhhh she got it wrong." At least three times a week, someone asks me for the homework answers. ("Dude, I'm not even in your class!" or "Here, 'cause I don't care"). I procrastinate way too much. I joined the Lacrosse team in March, and I still had people in June saying "What?! You play Lacrosse?" Unfortunately, I can't say that I was actually good at it. The thing is, that there are people who are much smarter than me, several of them my friends. Other than (and sometimes including my friends), people avoid me. If people are passing rumours that aren't even about me, they say they won't tell me because my innocent little mind can't handle it. I never get teased (people probably talk about me behind my back, but I don't care as much as I should), and everyone says they like me except for the girls who I made it clear to them that I did not like them at all. Yet I find my self lonely a lot and I feel awkward- even more than I already am. I want to be a bit more popular. I want people to get that I'm not as smart as they think, I really don't enjoy homework, and I don't want to be the same person as now when I grow up. I would like a best friend and boyfriend, and want people to stop avoiding me in general.
Now I'm done. Ok I kind of lied- that was more venting than asking for advice. But any would be nice.
 CrimeDramaBee posted over a year ago
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jedigal1990 said:
wow you sound alot like me when i was in high school i was the smart girl (well i wasn't that smart but everyone thought i was) and besides a few friends i was kinda lonely so its completly normal and being popular and having a whole lot of friends is overrated anyway you have to much to worry about without all that drama trust me.
The problem is once people have an idea about you its hard to change their minds and you definitly don't want to dumb down just to fit in because that will get you nowhere.
If it really bothers you don't give people answers to the homework admit that you struggle as much as they do if they complain about how hard the work is.
but honestly i think you are fine what you are going through is normal and why would you want to change who you are. just be glad you have a group of friends that do care for you and enjoy highschool and don't stress about it. beleive it or not you will miss it one day trust me anyway i hope this helps
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posted over a year ago 
BabyBlud said:
I agree with above. Dumbing down to fit in with the 'in crowd' will get you nowhere. These people have already labelled you and changing yourself won't change their minds so why put yourself through it?
The only reason they are saying these things is because they are jealous that you 'seem' to be doing better then they are, and having an easier time academically. Ignore them, they're not worth it. You work as hard as you can for the grades you get so why should they bring you down just because they can't get their butts in gear and pull their finger out like you do? It's their loss, and when they're serving you fries in McDonalds while you have a high paying job with the easy life, you'll be the one laughing, trust me.
i also agree that you shouldn't give out homework answers, it's their fault they didn't study and if they didn't understand the work in the first place they should have gone to their teacher and asked for a simpler explanation. You put all that hard work into making sure your homework was done to a good standard, don't let them copy that hard work! Just explain to them that you yourself have found it very hard to do, that you struggled as well and you can't guarantee it's top notch work.
I wouldn't worry too much, getting picked on for being a little different is what it's all about in schools. In fact, if you are bullied you're more normal then they are, as everyone goes through it from time to time so no more worrying!
However if the bullying turns seriously hurtful, physical, mentally abusing or threatening, you must nip it in the bud right away and demand your teachers and headmasters etc to do something about it.
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posted over a year ago 
xxXsk8trXxx said:
Try not to force people in to thinking that you're not who you think they are. Be a little more open. Try talking to people and making more friends. If you make more friends, people won't think that you're as awkward and shy. As for people thinking that you're smart and love homework and those kinds of things, all I can suggest is not to give answers to homework. It can get you in trouble.
As for the bullying issue, tell your parents or teachers. You can't hide people making fun of you.
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posted over a year ago 
thespikedturtle said:
Dang. You just explained exactly what I'm like in high school. Not kidding. Exactly.

Don't let their opinions change you. It doesn't matter whether other people think you're smart or not, you're you. Don't let them change what you do, how you answer a question, what your goals are. Just ignore what other people think of you.

So what if there are people smarter than you? They AREN'T you, and that's the important part. You're still very intelligent, no matter what you think. But I'm pretty sure your best quality is that you're a hard worker. That's why people think you're smart, you actually pay attention to things instead of just being ignorant.
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posted over a year ago 
Chaann94 said:
Wow identification over here...
First I want to ask you; are you (one of the)youngest of the class and your group of friends?

And for your answer, when I had to do a year over and I got into a new class my whole image changed, even in the class that used to treat me like you're being treated right now. But that's not really a solution, so forget I said that :P.

Anyways I think I can help you with this because I've been exactly where you are right now. My first advice is meet some new friends so you have a fresh start with them. My second advice is, if you feel too shy to talk, JUST DO IT! Don't think about what you're saying, just say something random and it'll either make people think or it'll make them laugh and either way it's good! And for the teasing part, start teasing others and you'll soon be teased back. Also for the "innocent little mind"-thing, that'll work in your advantage 'cos when you say something rude or sarcastic or cynical people will probably laugh even harder because you say it... or they'll get mad like "what the hell is she saying". I'll just leave that up to you.

Also you won't be the same person when you grow up. You'll see that as you grow older you'll be thinking way different of yourself. I have the same thing(and I'm 16 can you imagine how it'll be when you turn like 20 or so?).

I hope I helped :)
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posted over a year ago 
alisonfaith297 said:
well, can i just be frank and say,
thats high school like it or not almost everyone feels the same way, you may not think so but they are. me, myself am still in high school, i all i can say is that i'm just like u, i kinda out of place.
my grades are slightly above average, i not very talented in sports, not very popular, never had a boyfriend. and yes that bothers a lot of people, but i have learn to live with it, i mean high school just marks the beginning of your life not the end. just be who your are, dont give any care for what others think, cause it only matters about what you think of yourself.
and yes i know it sounds like some kind of hypocritical thing people quote from books which i somewhat did, the point is, its is true, just be yourself, and if people are talking about you, it cause they haven't got themselves figure out so they try to shift the attention from themselves to others.
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