when your 19 and your fiance wants you to get pregnant what do you say??

I would say no. My view is you two may not be in the postion to afford to raise a child yet. There's alot more to raising a child, that you don't realize, untill you have a child.
Secondly, (yes I know I'm old fashioned) if he wants kids, why doesn't he marry you first? I don't understand his thinking. I think you would feel more secure being married to the father of the child you would be carrying.
If it was me, (I'm not a female) I would ask him what's the rush. You are still young. Make sure that the timing is right for both of you.
I have my opinions, but I would not judge any decision you make. Just consider, how would this affect you and how would it affect the kind of life your child would have. Be honest with your fiance on how you feel. If it causes an argument, that should show you alot of red flags. Good luck and God bless.

Well it depends on how YOU feel really. Don't feel the pressure to have a child if you don't want to.

Personally, I believe that 19 is too young an age to start a family. BUT it's good that your fiance has shared his plans to have a child. It means he's committed to you and that's hard to find. Ultimately, having a child isn't something that's just rushed through and sadly, many people have them by accident. Think about where you are in your life. Are you stable enough to raise a child. Will your parents help, if they're able. If you have school you'd like to get done first. Experiences you'd like to live. Having a child, while a very rewarding thing in life, does take away many of these things that young people would like to do. Think about it. Seriously think long and hard because that child will stay with you for life. It's not a pet. The decision lies with you. If you evaluate yourself (and I mean, really, really inside) and think you honestly aren't ready, let him know. You two can always have children later. If he's seriously into you, he'll understand since you two are getting married. It's best to have a child a few years after marriage anyway so that you two can live a long 'honeymoon' stage and just have fun loving each other. If he insists despite your reluctance, I suggest going on the pill or using your own condoms just in case he'd get the wild idea to 'accidentally on purpose' get you pregnant with a condom he might have messed with. I know that's a harsh thing to take in, but you wouldn't believe what some people do nowadays right? Either way, seriously think about and speak with him openly. Give him a chance to speak his mind and LISTEN. It can be hard being a young parent, but it's not impossible.
Good luck! I hope I helped.

Explain to him that you want a child too (if you do) but just not now. You should wait until you're a little older. Unless you want to, then go ahead. But if you don't want to explain to him that you're not ready for that kind of responsibility.

this is how i see it...


usually, most would have a child waaay later on. i mean you gotta work and stuff right? but having a baby at 19 will just add work in a way. ur at an age where u have to have fun while it lasts. so if u have a baby now......it'll be hard to find some rest time and fun time (such as going to places). i mean im not saying having a child is boring. but tht shud wait



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