Does it anmnoy anybody that Elena said to Jeremy that he shouln´t love a ghost of the rest of his life and she thinks that it´s okey to love a vampire for the rest of her life?

Elena was definitely being a hypocrite when she said this. But not in the sense that she said Jeremy couldn't love a ghost, while she loved a vampire. It was more of how the guy she fell in love with, the old Stefan- caring, loving, who won't hurt anyone, (boring :P)-, doesn't exist anymore. Hez gone, and instead we have the rippah Stefan now. So, basically she's in love with a ghost too. Someone who doesn't exist technically, and shez really holding on to it.
This was what bothered me. But in the end of the episode she herself realised the truth, that she can't love a ghost for whole of her life. So, i guess we are cool. :D

You could say that's quite selfish, but Anna didn't belong in the real world with everyone since she's a ghost. Vampires were made to live beside humans whereas ghosts aren't meant to interact with anyone. In the end Anna was sent back to where she belongs and I think its really sweet she got to be with her mother. :)

Good point! Yeah thats annoying me right now.

well, I think it's ok. ghost don't belong in our world, vampires do. we don't know what may happen next, maybe she's gonna turn into a vampire? then she could be with Stefan/Damon forever. and she said to Stefan, that she's not gonna be in love with a ghost forever. she knows what she's doing and her words to Jeremy proves that.

That's EXACTLY what I thought when she said that. It's okay to love a vampire, but not a ghost?
... Okay.

No, vamps are suposed to exist in the physical world, ghosts aren't. ghosts in the physical world=mayhem; as we saw.

yh,it really did annoy me cause it was complete hypocrisy at it's highest...........but in the end she, well i guessed opened her eyes & really looked at herself & what she was doing with stefan ( who by the way isn't the person she was in love with not anymore) & took her own advise which redeem her in my eyes.

a little bit, but anna.... jeremy couldnt touch her & he shouldn't be able to see her either where as vampires can be seen by anyone... its different i mean if anna was still alive right now as a vampire elena wouldnt gaf but since shes dead its like chasing after a dead dream. it doesnt work at all and she was trying to keep him from wasting his life. elena could still have a life w/ stefan/ damon as a vampire or human but jeremy couldnt. he couldnt hold her hand or kiss her on the cheak or get married to her and he would end up killing himself to be with her

Elena's right. Stefan is still alive. He may be a ripper now, but she has hope he will come back. On the other hand, Anna is dead, she can't come back. But Elena herself said that she won't love a 'ghost' for the rest of her life either. So, if Stefan does not come back, she will forget him. But Anna is already gone and Jeremy hasn't forgotten her.