how can I be kind and communicate to ppl the importance of love and respect and to be kind no matter what life throws at you THE END??????

I'm a mother of 3 one of my 3 the youngest was called to the lord due to he was suffering with the so called drug epidemic 27yrs of age;( I have 4 beautiful grandkid's that have help me thru these pain, and the Ellen DeGeneres show the end!!!