Just an article i read on the effects of alcohol and sex in general...any comments, experiences, ideas (either on alcohol or sex) welcome.
Find out why too much alcohol can be a sexual turn-off for you both.
Drinking alcohol to excess can make good sex go bad. Dr Abigael San, clinical psychologist and alcohol expert, says this is because alcohol reduces both men's and women's sexual sensitivity.
"In both sexes, sexual response is reduced by regular and prolonged drinking," she says.
"In men, alcohol can cause difficulties getting and maintaining an erection - while women may experience reduced lubrication, find it harder to have an orgasm, or have orgasms that are less intense."
Many people mistakenly believe that alcohol is an aphrodisiac. However, over time too much alcohol can actually put a dampener on your sex drive.
Sexual side-effects
Drinking too much over an extended period of time can turn a temporary condition like 'Brewer's Droop' into full-blown impotence (1). Drinking can also cause damage if you're planning to have children. Women who drink over the government’s daily unit guidelines can take longer to become pregnant and can suffer from menstrual and fertility problems.
Recapture your spark
If you're serious about not letting alcohol get between you and great sex, then it's best to try cutting down together. Start by planning romantic nights that don't involve drinking alcohol at all, or make sure that you keep the amount on offer to within the daily unit guidelines.
Practical ways to cut back on booze
Rather than criticising your partner's drinking habits, acknowledge that it could be a good idea for both of you to cut down.
Some enthusiastic praise can help steer your partner towards what makes you both feel good. Compliments like "You look really slim now you've cut down on the pints," will help your partner feel positive about their choice.
Record your everyday drinking so at the end of the week you can see what you've consumed. MyDrinkaware is perfect for this.
If you've got into the habit of drinking wine for dinner, try switching to a non-alcoholic choice instead.
Put away the money you would have spent on alcohol. Then, at the end of the month use it for something you can do together.
If you are old enough - what have you learned from your experiences of being under the influence and having sex
If your not old enough - what have you learnt and how will you prevent it in your life?
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Find out why too much alcohol can be a sexual turn-off for you both.
Drinking alcohol to excess can make good sex go bad. Dr Abigael San, clinical psychologist and alcohol expert, says this is because alcohol reduces both men's and women's sexual sensitivity.
"In both sexes, sexual response is reduced by regular and prolonged drinking," she says.
"In men, alcohol can cause difficulties getting and maintaining an erection - while women may experience reduced lubrication, find it harder to have an orgasm, or have orgasms that are less intense."
Many people mistakenly believe that alcohol is an aphrodisiac. However, over time too much alcohol can actually put a dampener on your sex drive.
Sexual side-effects
Drinking too much over an extended period of time can turn a temporary condition like 'Brewer's Droop' into full-blown impotence (1). Drinking can also cause damage if you're planning to have children. Women who drink over the government’s daily unit guidelines can take longer to become pregnant and can suffer from menstrual and fertility problems.
Recapture your spark
If you're serious about not letting alcohol get between you and great sex, then it's best to try cutting down together. Start by planning romantic nights that don't involve drinking alcohol at all, or make sure that you keep the amount on offer to within the daily unit guidelines.
Practical ways to cut back on booze
Rather than criticising your partner's drinking habits, acknowledge that it could be a good idea for both of you to cut down.
Some enthusiastic praise can help steer your partner towards what makes you both feel good. Compliments like "You look really slim now you've cut down on the pints," will help your partner feel positive about their choice.
Record your everyday drinking so at the end of the week you can see what you've consumed. MyDrinkaware is perfect for this.
If you've got into the habit of drinking wine for dinner, try switching to a non-alcoholic choice instead.
Put away the money you would have spent on alcohol. Then, at the end of the month use it for something you can do together.
If you are old enough - what have you learned from your experiences of being under the influence and having sex
If your not old enough - what have you learnt and how will you prevent it in your life?
link
yea so title says a lot of it. I'm 14, he's 15
and we've been dating for almost 9 months. we go to different high schools, so we pretty much only see each other nights and weekends. he is super impulsive, serisoly.
and he's been talking about sex for like a month, but recently, he's become more aggressive/pushy. like if we were kissing, he would get ontop of me (which is pretty normal) except he will like kind of hold me down and start doing stuff. if I tell him to stop he stops what he's doing but doesn't move, he justs tries to talk me into it. he also has started kissing me up against the door. and he holds my shoulders/hips then to.
it's getting a little scary, I have bruises along my arms from him and on my hips. he just doesn't move if I tell him. I've started avoiding being alone with him but I can't do that forever. what should I do? what do I say? I know this sounds niave but I really like him and I want to avoid breaking up with him if it's possible.
and we've been dating for almost 9 months. we go to different high schools, so we pretty much only see each other nights and weekends. he is super impulsive, serisoly.
and he's been talking about sex for like a month, but recently, he's become more aggressive/pushy. like if we were kissing, he would get ontop of me (which is pretty normal) except he will like kind of hold me down and start doing stuff. if I tell him to stop he stops what he's doing but doesn't move, he justs tries to talk me into it. he also has started kissing me up against the door. and he holds my shoulders/hips then to.
it's getting a little scary, I have bruises along my arms from him and on my hips. he just doesn't move if I tell him. I've started avoiding being alone with him but I can't do that forever. what should I do? what do I say? I know this sounds niave but I really like him and I want to avoid breaking up with him if it's possible.