Don't laugh at me... just read the thing.

Don't worry about being embarrassed. =]

Hmm...this is a bit unusual, but he's probably just scared to take the leap. Maybe he's worried you'll get pregnant. Or he's just scared of the unknown. I think it's probably nervousness, and he wants to be a good lover when it happens and he's afraid he'll humiliate himself. I suggest just enjoying what you guys are doing now. When he's feeling more confident, he'll let you know. If he doesn't, then that's not the problem; it's something deeper.

I highly doubt you'll break your hymen, if you still have it (women break their hymens in normal situations often so you may have broke yours, I don't know). It will be too far up in your body for you to reach it (assuming you're using your fingers). So don't worry about that. Masturbating is obviously a very personal thing; it may sound gross, but you'll have to explore yourself and find out what you like. You may be embarrassed to do so, but remember: masturbating is a normal thing for people to do. It's natural, and helps relieve tension in your body. Whenever you get in that mood (assuming you're at home), go to your room or take a bath/shower; make sure you're relaxed so you won't freak out with what you're doing. And then just explore. You'll be glad you did.

And if anyone can't handle my advice to her, then you probably shouldn't be on the sex spot. :) Please be mature and keep in mind that sometimes people have questions that they need answered.

well first of all what age is he?
and " I'm pretty sure I broke my hymen at horse camp three years ago" hahaha wtf?!
depends what u do already,maybe he dosnt no what to do and might be embarassed...
or maybe he thinks ur just not ready
OR MAYBE he's bi?
ORRR MAYBE he just dosnt have a dick?(:
but round here if u give it up to a fella he'll take it. its weird.

btw ur 13? thats wayyyy too young to be having sex,ull regret it when ur older.take my advise its beter to be a child for as long as u can.

and ull "explode" wtf is that bout.ur not a fella wanking off!!

haha dont think i helped at all but meh. (:
have fun as a 16yr old mother .

Well I think you can only 'break' your hymen when something is inserted... so if you think you broke it at horse camp...maybe you should go checked out by a doctor?

And I agree...13 is way to young to be having sex...whats the hurry?

As for masturbating..I'm pretty sure you wont break anything but 'google' it...you can get some really good tips on how to do it correctly....though I guess if it makes you feel good theres not really a wrong way.

Ok..your boyfriend...it could be a few things...
1. Hes a young boy and young boys tend to uh.."finish" early and sometimes they have no control of it...so maybe that happened to him when he was with you and he's embarrassed about it.
2. Maybe he's scared of going all the way...guys are allowed to feel like that.
3. Maybe he's unsure on how to do it and doesnt want to make a fool out of himself in front of you.
4. Maybe he's not totally sure of his sexuality and thats freaking him out.

Whatever the reason...by trying to force the issue by getting mad at him or bringing up other guys is not going to help at all and will probably push him away from you. Relax..take a step back and see that sex isnt the only thing in a relationship...maybe if you focus on the other reasons why you guys like each other...you'll start to get along better.

Good luck sweetie!

Update: I found this on the web....I dont know if its true or not...but it was interesting...
There is nothing about riding a horse that can 'break' (the hymen doesn't break, it wears away, stretches or tears, and it does not just tear once, it tears multiple times over your life), just like no other sports can cause your hymen to 'break'.

For your hymen to be torn there has to be penetration – the hymen is within the opening of your vagina, it has inner and outer labia to protect it from damage, so unless horseback riding can damage your labia (it can't) then there is no way for it to then be able to damage your hymen. Even with penetration the hymen doesn't always tear. To quote Scarleteen (the most reliable sex education source around);

"Can the vaginal corona "break" when you ride a bike or a horse?

No. Since the vaginal corona isn’t a brittle membrane, physical exercise doesn’t break it. The vaginal corona is located 1–2 cm inside the vaginal opening – in other words, entirely within the vestibule. A whole bunch of things (vaginal discharges, hormonal changes, menses, masturbation, sex) can wear the corona away more over time, living your life among them, but that's not about breaking anything."

My Corona: The Anatomy Formerly Known as the Hymen & the Myths That Surround It – link

At a... horse camp...? I hope to God the horses weren't involved?

Well, I don't know what his problem is, but it seems to me like he's having a tiny penis. Don't worry. If you're like most girls, you'll get over it. You have the... um... chemistry and.. love and all that crap.

Firstly, I think 13 is way too young to be having sex. Sex is illegal before 16.

Anyway, he may not want to go further because he is embarassed or uncomfortable in himself. He may think he isn't ready.

Make sure you're ready before you do anything.