Im gay and 17 but for the last year ive started getting kinda upset and angry with myself for being gay. i no it sounds stupid and lame but its starting to really get to me. and wnever i think about being gay i get really upset. is this a phase ?

It sounds to me like you're probably just in a rut. I'm betting there aren't a lot of dating opportunities in your high school. My gay guy friends often complained about that. I have a friend who's still annoyed about being gay because, according to him, it's just so hard to meet great guys that are both gay and datable.

But to be honest, as a bisexual, even I have trouble finding a date.

Also, you probably just want to be "normal" sometimes. I say normal in quoations because, you know, you already are normal, but you are a minority. And it's hard not being like everybody else, not knowing how you fit in. Do you have any gay friends? That may help you feel like you fit in better. No matter how supportive your straight friends are, or how understanding, sometimes it's nice to know that there are other people like you out there.

I recommend chilling out. It's OK to be angry sometimes. Just don't let it make you do anything ridiculous. And don't get too worked up about it. You can't change who you are, right? And I think we all have times when we don't like who we are, regardless of whether we're gay or straight. But yeah, I do think it's a phase.

You have many reasons to be frustrated, and I get that. Whether it's because you can't get a date, or because you feel like you're different, it can be upsetting. But just know that there are people out there who feel like that sometimes.

Talk to your friends about it, too. Mine are always able to cheer me up.

i used to feel lame about being bisexual. i was pissed couse everyone thinks that a bisexual girl is just a slut who will go out with anyone, couse they just dont care and theyre so exiotic and freaky. i used to think that i only told myself i was bisexual because i just wanted to be different and cool because alot of girls are like that. they think its sexya and cool but this year i relized that it was a serious thing for me and that i really was attracted to both sexes and i stopped downing myself. ive gone hrough alot of phases like that but thats all they were... phases.
stay true to your self

I know how u feel.... i felt like that for... wow.... ive liked guys since like pre k... but im just now accepting... and like cinders said.... u just feel like the odd one out... but how r u doin now? Did it get better or do u still feel... like angry at yourself( dont be... youve done nothing to be angry about)

I feel the same way. im am also gay and 17 but im not out yet. i feel like im supposed to be this other person. i often think about what my life would be like if i was straight. tonight my co-workers asked me if i was gay/bi and i was about tell them "yes, i am" but instead i just looked away and ignored it.

i think people think i could be gay, they just cant be for sure because i dont act or talk "gay". i just get really upset if someone calls me a fag or something out of fun.

but yes, i do feel the same way. sometimes i even think about commiting suicide because i feel like someone could find out at any moment and if i just killed myself i wouldnt have to put up with their reaction.

i hope one day gay will be the majority and straight will be the minority just so they can get a taste of what its like to have to hide your true personality just because its "weird" or "uncommon"

yes it is a phase

I think all people go through phases and times in their lives where they don't like or resent something about themselves. There's always something in the back of everyone's mind that, for some reason or another, they hate about themselves.

But we all need to be proud of who we are - gay, straight, young, old, tall, fat, whatever. But I think the important thing to remember is that there isn't one thing that defines us. You're not a gay person, you're a person. I'm not a person with brown eyes, I'm a person.
Am I making any sense? lol

I guess what I'm trying to say is, don't focus on one aspect of yourself. You are who you are. Be proud of it.

dont be u r who u r

I know how you feel I'm 17 gay boy from Cardiff and I have had support off family and friends but I also felt trapped and that I didn't know what to do. I believe that it is just a part of getting through it and accepting your self and you will get through it and it will be for the better.