There are a lot of topics in this debate spot that I come up "pro-sex" on (for lack of a better term). For example, I am pro legalization of prostitution, I do not believe a consensual one night stand is morally reprehensible if both parties know the score, and I recommend that one masturbates as often as one possibly can.
Now, there are health and safety reasons why I support legalization of prostitution, but when it comes to the other two, the main reason I am "pro sex" is biological, psychological, and emotional.
Let me say this bold, and in capital letters:
SEX IS GOOD FOR YOU
Assuming that you are of legal age, I don't care about anything else. I don't care if you have gay sex. I don't care if you have sex with yourself. I don't care if you have kinky sex with handcuffs and and bananas. And I don't care if you have sex before marriage. Just so long as you have it, as frequently as you possibly can. It's OK to want it. It's OK to indulge in it. It feels good for a reason.
Now, I know the arguments of people who want to tell other people to wait for marriage, and wait for heterosexual marriage at that. And I'm gonna say if you wanna go that route, good for you. But after you get married, I hope you jump in the bed and go at it like rabbits every night of your happy marriage.
But since there are so many people telling everyone else over eighteen that they still need wait for marriage, I felt it was about time that someone came along and told these over-eighteen-year-olds that they shouldn't. And I know people will disagree with me. Maybe they'll call me vulgar, or the devil, or... what's that one word someone called me once... Oh yeah, evil.
But the fact of the matter is, complete celibacy is not healthy, and not intended for the average human being. Sure, spiritual leaders do it, but they have all that spiritual energy to get their rocks off on. So let's start with the first sexual encounter any (normal) person ever has: The one she has with herself. Masturbation is not only natural, and normal, it's healthy. You are not the only person in the world who likes a little private time. Boys do it. Girls do it. Even bonobos do it.
So why does sex and masturbation have such a stigma? The answer is simple: Religion. In ancient religions, sex was involved in plenty of pagan rituals. It was celebrated, and seen as something holy. In fact, orgasms were revered as being close to god, heavenly, and beautiful. With the rise of the monotheistic religions who tried to distance themselves from what they didn't like about paganism and take the things they did like, sex became shameful.
Now I've done less research on this topic than I probably should have, so I can't really go beyond that, as this is more of a rant than a well-constructed arguement.
Now, while I am advocating for people to go out and have sex, I am, of course, advising you to go out and have safe sex. Be smart. Wait until you are ready. Do not have sex with a minor, if you are over eighteen. If you are under eighteen, I would heavily advise flying solo for a while until you're ready for a dance partner. Perfect your technique. When you're ready for doubles, have sex with someone you trust. Even if you trust them, wear condoms. And/or use a diaphragm. And/or use pills. And/or any other means of birth control you can think of.
An interesting thing I read in an article discussing the multiple health benefits of an active sex life reminds us that "the assumed health benefits of sex are generally thought to accrue to people in loving, monogamous relationships or those flying solo. Risky sex with lots of partners will probably do more harm than good." That is, those hopping from partner to partner are likely to be more stressed than those who are keeping to themselves, or one other person. So I'm not advocating for promiscuity either. It's healthier if you are doing it safely, and monogamously.
So I'll say it again. I don't care if you're gay, or if you're unmarried, or if you have a frisky right hand (or a frisky left hand for that matter). But go out and have sex, because it's good exercise, releases tension and stress, and releases endorphins and raises serotonin levels. On top of that, it decreases depression, boosts cardio health, helps prevent prostate cancer, speeds recovery of wounds/illnesses, and even helps counteract the effects of aging. As if that isn't enough, sex on a regular basis a few times a weak improves olfactory senses and promotes weight loss and improves overall fitness.
So please, do it for your health. Have sex, and lots of it. And don't be ashamed of it.
