I'm confused about delena haters

If you are fairly new to the fandom and have never read the books then it's possible that you will never have heard of Bamon (Bonnie and Damon). Bamon does exist, but it depends on where you look. As for any 'DE hate', again, it depends on where you look. Unfortunately, it has happened on our spot by people who have kind of stirred up trouble by posting comments/arguments which have just rubbed DE shippers up the wrong way. I'm sorry if some of the fans here come across as defensive. Most of us want to avoid shipper wars, but often, any slanging matches that have happened have been caused by negative comments from non-DE fans or multi shippers. We just really, really love DE, and in spite of having the biggest numbers of fans, we feel like the underdog a lot of the time. Why? Well, because SE are always in love and together, and a lot of the book fans are hurt and betrayed by spoilers from LJ Smith's soon to be released 'Midnight'. But DE haters do exist out there. I think you're lucky to have only encountered DE love!

I am not a Delena hater, I'm not, I love Damon and Elena together. I just hate the argument that "delena is going to happen eventually". I am sorry but that is just a crappy argument. I agree with Delena lovers who say 'in this and this episode you can see that Elena does care for Damon etc etc and therefore we think that Delena will happen". THAT I can buy, but not some kind of destiny argument, cause I think that just sucks, it's not even a real argument.
Another thing is that some Delena lovers like epicdelena4ever automatically say that non Delena lovers are pathetic, that does not exactly make me love Delena more, more the opposite effect.

people hate demean because they have gotten attached to stefan and elana being together. I think this is reasonable because demean sucks