the xander thing is kinda acceptable as she accepted it, but ultimately, oz leaving willow led to everything else. as she wouldn't have fell for tara if he was still on the scene and tara's death wouldn't, either, affect her so much or have even happened

I was tied between Tara's death and becoming Dark Willow but I figured that they were both tied as dark willow was the physical manifestation of Willo's grief over losing Tara.

I think her self-confidence was absolutely shattered after she went dark. But I think it's all tied together with Tara's death. It's hard to separate the two IMO.

Its what changed her into Dark Willow and causes her to kill :/

I don't think she's ever really going to be able to get over this.

I'm with my twinlet and I feel like writing a bit so here I go.

Buffy's Death: I am absolutely positive that this was tramatic for Willow and, until Seeing Red, I believe this was the event that probabaly shaped her character the most going into season six. My main reason for not picking this is because she had a strong support system to fall back on - most importantly Tara. Her best friend, who she loved, died but she still had who I consider to be the love of her life with her.

Xander ignoring her - To me this is just the normal sort of thing that happens to people as they grow up. Whoever you fancy will naturally not notice you or take forever to see you. It's an unwritten law.

Having Oz leave - This hurt. A lot. Oz was her first love and he will always have a piece of her heart but he didn't die. Oz is alive and and split with saying how much they loved one another. There was a degree of closure with these two.

Going dark - I consider Dark Willow to be the manifestation of Tara's death. Tara's death is what caused Dark Willow and one cannot be viewed without the other. Going dark did take a giant toll on her self confidence but it was the loss of Tara, her counter balance, that threw her hammer out of wack completely. Willow would never have gone dark without the pain of losing Tara and she also had to deal with it being a mortal death that she could not fix no matter how dark she went (there is a series of novels called Dark Willow, it's an AU series that explores Dark Willow searching for a way to bring Tara back, it's decent but not amazing).

Simply stated, Tara's death was the removal of an unresolved relationship and the loss of her biggest support system, it sent her into a tailspin and changed everything for her character.

so sad!!!

The most traumatizing thing that happended to ME was oz leaving willow, but the death of somebody you love is even worse than just the abscence of somebody you love. Poor willow, her lovestories always ended the worst. Or are the worst, damn, stupid Kennedy!

Tara's death and going Dark Willow/her whole magic addiction in season 6.