my husband slept with my used to be best friend i forgave him so i said its been over a year how can i make myself get over it its tearing me down i need some advice note we werent married at the time

True, full blown forgiveness means letting go, "forgive and forget". Easy words to say, but as humans our minds tend to hold on. Your married him. That alone says you love him. Trust is a huge part of love. Love can not survive without it. I glad/sad that your ex BFF is your ex now. What she did is BAD. But I'm also sad that you lost your BFF. I would not ever trust her again. I suggest you leave her alone. "Vengeance is mine" saith the Lord. Give your pain to God, He will take care of it His way. TRUST in Him. Really, give it to God, He is your God and your friend. I hope all goes well for you my dear ♥

that is really messed up you should talk 2 her about it and settle it out