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1. I'm not sure I could ever be in a relationship with a person who is very religious. To be in love it does not matter, but there are things that would cause serious friction, like the example you've just given. But also: what if that person and me would have children? How would we raise them? I guess I would have the wedding according to that persons believes (also depends what religion they are and how strict they are: I would sooner have a Catholic wedding than a strict Dutch Reformed wedding), but because of other things that would cause problems, I would not commit to a relationship with a religious person like that.

2. The funeral would be how the deceased would've wanted it, not how the family would've wanted it.
If that person was Christian, I would make sure the service was held in church and he/she would be buried on a Christian cemetary.

1. If he's jewish i would love to have a jewish wedding, but he's anything else, i would seriously want him to consider my beliefs.

2. Have it at church if most of them really wanted it

1. Depends on their religion and how tied to that religion they really are. Obviously I would not be marrying a religious fanatic, but if they wanted to have a ceremony to make sure their family did not murder them....I might go with it. Also if it was something more interesting (I was raised Catholic), it may even be fun.

2. Depends on who in my family it is. My brother is an atheist, so there's an easy funeral. Everyone else I probably would respect their wishes. I study cultural anthropology so I know what religion means to people even though it does not mean much to me. People like traditions, structure, ways to separate stages of life. People may not feel that someone is truly dead until they see them dead (viewing), are told they're dead (funeral) and are finally buried before their eyes.

1) A person who was religious enough to need their wedding to be in accordance with their religion is not someone who would get along well with me.

2) The funeral would be in accordance with the deceased's religion. I would not foist my atheistic beliefs on a dead person!

1. i wouldn't be getting married if so they couldnt be religous
2. i make the funeral how the wanted i have time to make my own arrangments

1. Yeah sure, I don't care, so long as I am not to be a part of their religion.

2. Yeah sure, it's their funeral, not mine.

1. There are a few things that are 'deal breakers' for me that I try to find out very early on in the relationship - one is children (I don't want any more) another is religion (I'm not religious) so that wouldn't be an issue for me. I simply don't get involved with people who have such a HUGE difference of opinion.
2. I would absolutely conduct the funeral the way they wanted it - if that's in a religious setting then so be it. There are other times I can make my disgust for religion obvious, funerals are not one of those times.